Since the mapping of the human genome, the LGBQT communities have been searching for the gay gene. They have not found it. The next genetic supposition was that we may have a genetic predisposition created by a combination of some of the twenty-five thousand genes in every nucleus of every one of the trillions of cells in our human body. Again there has been no solid evidence to support that theory. Perhaps it is not about genetics after all. Bruce H, Lipton (Lipton 2010) in his book The Biology of Belief, makes a strong case for the role of the environment in shaping our beliefs which in turn shape or genetic expression. In the relatively new emphasis on epigenetics, we see the human being as a complex set of pieces of information contained in our genes that express themselves in a trillion different ways through the production of strands of one hundred thousand different proteins that are combined in different ways to shape our response to the environment. In other words we are not bisexual because of genetic predisposition, but rather due to a set of circumstances and beliefs that has shaped our genetic expression.
Why is that so important? Because our beliefs shape our feelings and our feelings shape our thoughts and our thoughts shape our actions. In other words, let’s admit it, we indulge in our sexual references because we want to and we prefer some expressions of our sexuality over others. We want certain kinds of sex based on the pleasure we experience rather than some form of genetic predisposition. We have formulated that expression of pleasure for a thousand different reasons, many of them based on the situations we experienced as children and teens in our environment. This also means we have the power to control our sexuality and how we express it. If you prefer same sex pleasure that go ahead and enjoy it. If you prefer opposite sex pleasure than go ahead and enjoy it. You do not have to explain yourself to anyone including yourself. As a bisexual, I may prefer to have sex with a man at certain points in my life and at other times I may prefer to seek the love of a woman. I refuse to beat myself up because of the inconsistencies of my preferences and choices. I refuse to have to justify those preferences and choices to anyone.
Our sexuality is what it is. Why fight it? Why try to label it? Why look for a cause? Why try to justify it? Why indeed. It is a source of pleasure and this world knows there is so little of that these days.