The first step on the road to wellness is to admit that you are biologically gay. A previous study on a previous blog (Bisexual men and Sexual Arousal) indicated that three out of four men who were designated as bisexual showed preferred attraction to men when viewing sexually explicit material. This indicates that the brain is orientated to sexual attraction for men. That means that most bisexual men are primarily, biologically gay. Admit it and embrace it. Sexual identity is not about choosing between good and evil, but it is about embracing life as it is, in the beauty of the moment, in the honesty of reality.
Sexual orientation is a blessing, not a curse. It is simply a part of our biological and psychological make-up that allows us to experience the passionate side of life. Along with accepting our orientation, we are free to accept all the levels of pleasure that go with it.To many bisexual men, exploring their gay side is like a teenage boy looking at dirty pictures in the privacy of his own room. These dirty pictures, this gay erotic expression of the body, have to be allowed to be expressed. Gay sex is very erotic; that is just the way it is. It is raw, sensuous and powerful. Bisexual men have to let their gay side out of its box so it can experience this power openly and honestly. They have to honour all the dirty little pictures.
Embracing gay sex with all its sensuous details is like the climax of a journey towards bisexual consciousness. This is where we leave our ego and mind behind and enter into a state of sexually altered consciousness, a state of mindfulness where the world disappears and we live only in the sexual pleasures of the moment. One has to accept and embrace the body’s sexual orientation. Each person is unique with their own set of experiences and genetic make-up. There are no stereotypes, just sexual individuals trying to explore the pleasures of their sexual bodies.
Whether it is in the masculine-top role or the feminine-bottom role, bisexuals do share the sexually feminine qualities of their gay souls. Most bisexual men refer to themselves as bottom or versatile; however, the majority of those who call themselves versatile appear to be seeking the feminine experience. Bottom gay men perhaps experience the most conflict but they can also experience the deepest levels of sexual mindfulness. They must learn to relax and indulge the sensuous pleasures of their feminine side. There can be no urgency for ejaculation; in fact, there may be no need for ejaculation; in fact, there may be no erection. They must allow their male sexuality to fade away and let their feminine side take them into the beauty of the moment of shared body and soul orgasm. They have to let their feminine g-spot take them into that profound moment of ecstasy.
The next blog will look at the dangers of denial and repression. Please leave a comment. I would like to know and possibly share your feelings on this issue.