But intimacy in more than bliss; it is also a working platform where lovers meet to grow and evolve as souls. While we are on this earth, there will be moments, days, and sometimes even weeks where we forget who we are. In my view, intimacy is this spiritual platform by which two lovers can reach the place where they know that it is safe to share the deepest feelings and fears of their souls. They are free to express their deepest emotions knowing that their lover will not hear their words of anger or despair,but will welcome the expression of an inner pain that needs to be spoken, processed and let go.

A bisexual man in a gay relationship may experience problems in this area.  As we have seen earlier, pillow talk after orgasm is a key way to increase bonding and to communicate thoughts and feelings. This.seems to come naturally for women but not for men. In a heterosexual relationship the man usually follows the woman’s lead; however, in a gay relationship both partners need to make a conscious effort to make this happen.  Bonding and communication are the keys to intimacy.

I have come to the conclusion that we can only truly see our Self through the eyes of another, through the eyes of someone who truly loves us at a soul to soul and heart to heart level. Intimacy reminds us that our beloved has an eternal soul that is beautiful, powerful, and caring; in the process, we can come to realize that our own soul is beautiful, powerful and caring. Sometimes we cannot get there by ourselves; we need help. I believe it is the role as the conscious beloved to mirror and reflect back to the unconscious beloved who they really are and who they want to be. Through this sense of intimacy, they can return to the state of consciousness where they both come to appreciate the tangible reality of their love for each other in thought, word, and deed.