Category: Conscious Sexuality

New Year’s Resolutions

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logo_2Happy New Year.  Make no mistake.  Do not doubt.  IT WILL BE A HAPPY NEW YEAR. Shout it out. Believe it.  Every time you feel the negative side of your ego pulling you down, go into your closet, lock the door, and shout this out with all the energy you can muster:

THIS IS MY LIFE.  I AM A POWERFUL SPIRITUAL BEING. I AM IN CONTROL.  I CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.

For the past two years I have set my Self (my Self deserves a capital S) three goals – one for personal growth, one for my relationship with my dearly Beloved, and one for writing.  But I do not just make New Year’s resolutions; I form intent and I dedicate the energy of my mind and soul to the process of making my goals become real.  In other words, I create my own miracles.

The first step is to analyse where I have come from, where I am now, and where I want to be.  I take this very seriously.  I review every success, I record it in my success book, and I celebrate these achievements by patting myself on the back, letting my own self-praise soak into my ego, reaffirming it as a partner in my spiritual growth.  You see, my ego is not the bad boy in my soul, it is my decision making center and it contains the energy power of my mind to set a course so that good things can happen.

The second step is to form intent. This is not a wishy-washy sort of hope; it is a process whereby I combine the mind energy from my ego with the soul energy from my heart.  And somewhere in the mix a miracle happens.  The goal becomes real, it actualizes, and the miracle begins to happen.  It starts slowly like an embryo in the first month, but as the months pass it takes shape and grows.  But it has to have a beginning, a spiritual birth based on the marriage of ego-mind and heart-soul. And how does this happen?  I make it happen.  I will it into reality.  I infuse it with the spiritual power of my being.

Next, I review and renew my intent on a daily basis.  I spend ten minutes each day just meditating, restoring my soul energy and focusing it on my own personal health and well-being in a global way, just breathing easily and renewing my connection with the source of universal energy.  By doing this I enter into the infinite source of love-power, that positive energy that can make miracles happen.  I then review my goals, note and celebrate my progress and decide what I can do today to make my love child grow. If I have had a setback, I give my Self permission to fail and have a bad day thereby removing the negative energy so that it cannot accumulate and destroy. I then reform my mind-heart intent thereby restoring the positive energy so that my energies can be applied to grow my miracles.

Believe me, it can happen.  I have had absolute miracles in my life in the past two years and I expect another set of miracles for the New Year and I plan to conceive them today. Join me.

Happy New Year

 

Bisexuality – May the Force Be With You

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logo_2Like most men my age, I am a die hard Star Wars fan.  Kind of hurts to see Leia and Han looking older. Apparently, the force does not keep us young. According to Dr. Max Planck, one of the founding fathers of Quantum Physics, “All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force…. We must assume that behind this force a conscious and intelligent mind exists.  This mind is the matrix of all matter.”   One of the main themes in the movie series is “The Force”, which presents us with a bunch of questions.   Is it a reality?  I think so, and if so, what is it? How can this apply to our daily lives? What does this have to do with sexuality? And in particular what does it have to do with Bisexuality?

I am just completing a heavy book called The Energy Healing Experiments by Gary Schwartz[1] .  Gary is a PHD researcher from the University of Arizona. He is the Director of its Laboratory for Advances in Consciousness and Health.  He and his colleagues have carried out scientific research with energy fields (the force?) and consciousness (Jedi mind control?) Perhaps the force within us is what we call our “spirits”, and perhaps our spirits and what contemporary physics calls “energy” are in a deep sense one and the same. Over the next few weeks we will be looking at this whole area of energy and how it affects bisexuality.  For today let’s just look at energy itself, its nature and its effects on our bodies.

According to Schwartz, our bodies are forms of energy that generate electromagnetic energy waves. These waves seem to emanate from the whole body, perhaps through the water molecules in our living cells[2].  Various organs, or systems generate specific waves.  For example brain waves can be picked up on an EEG; whereas, heart waves (five times more powerful) are displayed on EKG’s. He goes on to show, again, through the rigors of scientific experiments, that intent or consciousness (may the force be with you) contains energy that can change the behavior of animals, growth in plants and even affect the well being of microorganisms in test tubes. In addition to energy waves, he demonstrates that quantum fields are actually generated through the works of collections of atoms that constitute our bodies or parts of our bodies. These fields can transmit energy and information in distances beyond the measurements of electromagnetic fields and may be a part of the universal matrix of living energy. In addition, Schwartz demonstrates that all biological matter emits dynamic patterns of bio-photon light which may express the essence of its being. For example healers were able to increase bio-photon emissions in plants by as much as tenfold simply by sharing their energy through conscious thought. He also states that energy emissions contain communication. “Energy provides the power that enables the information to be generated, transmitted and received…. Information without energy is powerless; energy without information is purposeless. Every one of our cells operate as a transmitter and receiver of electromagnetic energies.”[3]

So what is the application to sexuality?  Schwartz goes on to surmise, “Consider what happens when you hold someone you love. Or more explicitly when you are being physically intimate with someone. Can you imagine to what extent bio-energetic signals from our cells and organs are interacting and communicating?”[4]  Good question.  What exactly are we communicating through sexual contact?

Is there such a thing as the yin and the yang? Are there negative and positive energies?  It would appear that there is. Stress causes vascular inflammation in rats and humans.  Schwartz demonstrated that even microorganisms in test tubes respond negatively to healers under stress. It would appear that anxiety brought on by stress can have a negative effect on our health and well being. So what do we share when we have sex with our partners? Are we bringing a ton of emotional baggage that we then hoist onto our lovers? We may just be exposing our dark side and using our negative energies loaded with our own anxiety, to seduce and to weaken our lover’s flow of positive energy. In the process, we may also be weakening ourselves by building up patterns of addiction that feed upon themselves generating more and more negative energy.

Schwartz then goes on to demonstrate that healers who have a deeper level of compassion have a greater level of effect on animals, plants and humans. He concludes, “If we follow the accepted canons of science, we are led, slowly but surely, to the simple explanation that caring energy and loving intentions are the key to healing and health”[i]. This information should urge us on to bring positive energy, namely love and care, to the bed.  If we are going to engage in casual sex, can we bring caring and love to these types of encounters?  I honestly do not think so.  We can bring passion but I would hardly call it care or love.  If we truly want to be caring and compassionate people we should be mindful of whom we sleep with and what we are leaving behind when we get up and leave. On the side of life (within the force)  we can bring so much good energy through caring and love to our partners. We have an opportunity to bring powerful waves of healing that can build their sense or self-worth and physical, mental and spiritual well being.

 

[1] Schwartz, Gary, E; Simon, William L. The Energy Healing Experiments. Atria Books, New Your; 2007.

[2] Page 149

[3] Page 129

[4] Page 184

[i] Page 147

Revised – Oops

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logo_2OOps that did not come out right.  As a result of the lack of response on the last article, I realize my enthusiasm for man to man sex seemed to be wiped out by desire for consciousness.  Let me correct myself.  Lets do this again.  Please reread because I believe that the thoughts in the article  are important to digest on the road to understanding our bisexuality.

Thanks to a dear friend who scours the universe for me looking for precious nuggets of gold, I came across this article by Jon Rappoport[i].  Here is an excerpt:

“The word ‘art,’ across the full range of its meanings, is what happens when, from a platform of structure, a person takes off and discovers that consciousness doesn’t particularly want to wait around a railroad station looking at What Already Exists forever. Consciousness wants to invent what isn’t there.  Consciousness wants other spaces and times.”

 Bisexuality, at least the concept as presented by our society, does not exist. It is just a label and labels are dangerous, especially if we accept them unconditionally. In spiritual reality, it is only a story of our collective minds.  The key for us as flesh, blood, and soul individuals is to know that it is only a story.  This is called consciousness.

Am I a bisexual?  Yes and no.  do I enjoy sex with both and women? Yes, so I guess that makes be bisexual.  But do I fit a one-size-fits-all  definition and label? No. I have come to realize that bisexuality is just a platform, a structure, a label, a part of the story that helps me make sense of the world in which I live.  Does the label have a purpose? No, not really, not anymore.  Oh it did once, but it has fulfilled its purpose in leading me into consciousness and into the understanding of my sexual-self.  My sexuality has grown so that I no longer need labels.  I no longer have to fight to define and protect myself.  I am confident in my sexuality and in being who I am.  I don’t need it anymore.  I am conscious, which means I have transcended the label of bisexuality and integrated my complex sexuality into the I Am that is me. I do not have to wait around the railroad station for my train to come in.  It has already and I am on it.

Does that mean that I no longer desire sex with another man?  Oh, but indeed I still do. Sometimes when I am alone and feeling down, I long to engage again in that wonderful sexuality that makes me feel so alive, that makes me feel the natural power of my inner being.

However, sexuality is not just about sex.  It never was, at least not since I first masturbated at the age of fourteen.  That was when it became a story of guilt and ugliness brought on by my Catholic upbringing.  I was a sinner and as often as I went to Confession and pleaded with God to take away my source of sin, I just kept adding to the story.  Then, when I added sex with a man, and then another man, and another and another, it became a book titled “Gay” that I could not put down until it was finished; but, of course, that book has no ending.  Then when I got married and could not control my impulses, I had to defend my actions with a label and the title changed to “Bisexual”. I had to come to the point where I realized that this was not a good book, regardless of how often the title changed.  It did not make me feel good.  It was just fiction written by people who did not understand the nature of sexuality.

That’s when I became sexually conscious.  That’s when I saw that the subplot was to control me and marginalize me and put a stamp of “unworthiness” on me so they (the mythological Big Brother) could control my thoughts and actions. It also became a vehicle whereby I could justify my action, even though I was hurting other people with my dishonesty.  Then It became a place of identification where I could link myself with other men going through the same life plans.  The title became mine.  It became me.  That’s when the story ended. I now know I am not that title.  I am a free spirit with a  body that desires sex with another man and a soul that longs to be connected with a loving woman.

But you see, that’s the beauty of being conscious.  This is where living becomes an art. There are no controls.  There are no rules.  There are no lies. There is no guilt.  There is no label. There is just the white canvas, the ever present moment where we can choose to use all the colors of the rainbow.  But this pleasure is not an end in itself, pleasure leads us to more consciousness and a greater appreciation of what is whole and good.  And let me be very clear.  Sex is “good”.  Sex with a man is powerful and beautiful.  Sex with a woman is sweet and intimate. Sex is the natural expression of this wonderful body that wants to pursue what it feels as “sexual pleasure”.  It is the expression of my soul that searches for deep connection and purpose.  It is the expression of my spirit that wants to wrap itself in a blanket of joy so it can laugh at the coldness as it gets on its train to Ecstasy.

Jon Rappoport. Exit From The Matrix Beyond;  structures, beyond one space and time. November 22, 2015 [i]